How to Raise Good Children

Children are God’s blessing for every family. Rearing children is a tough job, but rearing good children is an even tougher job. As parents there are a lot of things you can do to ensure you bring up your children well.

  • Own up to your mistakes. As parents you might want to appear consciously or unconsciously to “know it all.” Coming off to your children as someone who never commits a mistake will make them feel pressured. Admitting when you are wrong will gain you their trust and respect. Remember you do not have to be perfect for your children to admire you. Remember that children imitate what they see. If they see you as humble and truthful, they will eventually be like that, too.

  • Set boundaries. You must set rules to which your children should adhere. Remember you are the parent, and as long as they are in your care you are responsible for them. Some limits might lead to disagreements, but do not give in. As parents you need to maintain authority. Discipline is important in raising good children.
  • Let them know you can be their friend. Friends are the people with whom we feel most comfortable telling things. They are also the people with whom we share fun times. Be that kind of person to your children. As a parent you must be willing to switch between different roles, and being their friend is one of those roles. If your children think you are their friend, they will be more willing to share secrets with you and enjoy hanging out with you. Remember to balance authority and friendship in your relationship with your children.
  • Listen to them. As parents you always want to voice your opinions. You want your voice to be heard and your rules implemented. Being the one to always speak can be suffocating to children, so try to maintain an open conversation with them. Let then hear out your opinions and then let them speak in return. Listening is important because it will let them know you value what they think. You might not agree with what your children says, but it will comfort them to know that as parents you took the time to hear what they have to say.
  • Make them feel special. You have to balance being strict and affectionate. You can’t always bombard children with rules. Most of the time you have to make them feel you love and care for them. Praise them for a job well done. Encourage them when they need it.

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About the Author: Roberta Southworth is a psychiatrist by profession. She likes to help out people by writing informative tips on how people can to solve their family and relationship issues. She is currently staying in Ireland. She has 5 years of couple counseling experience.

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